If you are not one of my closest friends, you probably never know that in the past I had suffered from depression, and anxiety. I was living on antidepressants and wasn’t able to wake-up without them. I used to be very suicidal, and I use to don’t like my life.
My life was full of up and down. I also use to believe that my happiness depended on other people, there was even a time when I felt like my life has no meaning anymore. We all fight hidden, a silent battle against not being good enough and not belonging enough. But I want to tell you something life get better, it won’t be easy the recovery is possible.
That why I decided to tell you my story, I get to a point in my younger self where life was having no meaning and fail many time suicide attempt, I’m pleased this didn’t work out well by the way. I can tell you that in life the most difficult part isn’t to please other people, but to please yourself. Trying to get your life together, working on yourself is the hardest part of life. The rest comes after.
Here is some advice to improve your life:
Learn Who you are? And What you want?
Don’t be scared to show who you really are. Recognize that we are all different and unique. That it’s maybe complicated for other to understand yourself and you to understand them. But instead of hiding yourself behind a mask, just follow what you love, your true self and passion; and everything will be so easy. Choose to value that uniqueness in others.
Learn to accept your weakness and don’t expect yourself and other to be perfect.
This part was the hardest part for me because I’m a perfectionist by nature. You must learn that we’re all on a journey and usually, change, learning is a slow progress. Don’t put goals on yourself you cannot follow, start small and after go big.
Know your Triggers
Know what you don’t like, what annoys and upsets you, don’t follow the crowd if you don’t like where they are going. And prepare in advance so that if something that annoys you appear, you don’t react or get upset. Being worry will not give you an hour of your life.
Try to see life with perspective and from different angles.
I was literally melting down, and one of my friends come to me saying to me that she wanted the life I have, she even told me that I was one of our famous friends and that life will give great moments coming. I was shocked because from my point of view my life sucks, but at her side, this was the perfection. Sometimes when you focus too much on the negativity, you don’t realise that there are actually people envious of what you have and dream to be at your place.
Stop being jealous of fake life
Try not to feel jealous about things, other people and what they have. With all this perfect life on Instagram, Facebook and social media we tend to be more jealous than before. But all this jealousy, will only make you bitter and kill your inside. Just keep living, and find your own path, and one day you’ll discover your own happiness.
Learn to say ‘NO.’
Set your boundaries and said no clearly to what is not best for you. You only need to do what’s is best for you right now. You don’t have to please others or to do what others say. This is that simple.
Don’t Run Away
Don’t run away from your life, and problem by surcharging your life to don’t think about it. It’s will only make thing worse, if I never did go ask for help when I was so depressed, I will probably not be here today to write about it. Go ask for help, there is professional or if you have financial problems learn to manage your money, just don’t let it the ways it’s this will get worse I can ensure you. You can always overcome everything in life. It’s better to be brave… and then do what should be done. In the long term, this experience will help you, and you will feel a lot less stressed.
Invest in yourself and Dream
Invest in yourself, so you feel you’re being supported and allowed to take time alone – instead of feeling pressurised, controlled, or else boxed in.
Make a list of the most important things to do each day, in order of priority.
Many people when they see my phone will surely laugh because I usually use my alarm to remember me of the stuff that I need to be done. I use my phone to help me follow my diets, to remember me all the things that need to do – usually don’t think about other extra things.
I over my depression, and now doesn’t need to take any antidepressant. This possible, everything in life is possible, recovery is possible.
Everything is possible you can always improve your life, never is too late to start little steps by little steps.